Dating is not what it used to be. The current state of our digital-centric world is causing the possibility of meeting someone dwindling to a near-impossibility. Here are some of the problems I’ve noticed with dating that have begun to kick in during the last year or so:
1. Your Plans Are Dead, Don’t Bother
Want to make plans with someone? Do you want to invite that cute guy in the glasses to an art show or dinner? Forget it, because the days of making and keeping plans are long gone. In a time where everyone gets invited to events via Facebook or other social media outlets, making a date (and then keeping it) is nearly impossible. Hey ladies, get ready to make a date – with your cat! Am I right?
2. They Got That Text Message
Yes, that person is ignoring you right now. Yes, it’s awful. They’re probably awful too. Stop thinking about that person. Texting has made the act of ignoring someone all too easy. We also now have the added misery of the “read receipt” which shows that someone has read your text. If you have an iPhone, you can see when someone is typing a response to you, and it’s causing many of us to have bouts of extreme anxiety. No one picks up a GD phone anymore and makes an actual phone call. Voices? We don’t need those anymore. We might as well cut out our voiceboxes and throw them into the abyss along with your dead dating life.
3. Commitment? Blah.
No one wants to commit to anything anymore. People cannot commit to simple meetings and they certainly cannot commit to being there for someone emotionally, mentally, or in any other way. Things people can commit to: Twitter, Instagram, swiping right on Tinder, not making eye contact with strangers, bad manners, and weekly poker games.
4. Nothing Matters But A Narcissist
Studies have shown that narcissism is appearing in high rates in the millenial generation. Naturally, the booming popularity of the “selfie” and the increased focus that millenials place on themselves in nearly every aspect of their lives will lead to disappointment in the dating arena. Please take this example of a guy who posted a screenshot of his bank account balance on Tinder to attract women. Please note that it is a business account, which means that the money is possibly not even all his, but most importantly, please note his shallow existence and the belief that money will give him a personality. Please refer to Cher Horowitz’s reaction above.
5. People Lie About Everything to Impress You
Did you know that people lie about nearly everything and their motives are not always nice? It’s true – men will say anything to get some pussy, and I am sure there are women who lie in the same ways. I am talking about people lying about their age, their occupation or income, or what they want from a relationship. How can you distinguish a liar from a truth-teller? Only time will show whether someone is honest. Unfortunately, my years of going to psychics have proven nothing about the ability of someone to see the future. I am no longer seeing psychics.
Good luck out there!!
Fixed Air 
Awesome article. It comes from the point of view of a girl like yourself.
Me, as a guy, I feel the same about girls. Hard to meet them or let alone go on a first date without them flaking out the last minute.
Totally disrespectful to me.
I kind of stopped worrying about it. I closed or I am no longer active on my dating accounts and not actively looking for anyone.
It feels that meeting someone that shares our values is like a gift. A gift from the universe.
The best gift is the gift we need and love the most but we never asked for it and instead we received it like a surprise (when we least expect it).
Thanks for sharing,
Elias
I feel that you may find lots of truth that resonates with point (5) from this article on my blog: http://lallouslab.net/2014/09/19/about-taking-whats-not-yours-and-the-five-senses/